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IDK how my boy got Tom Hardy lips. Probably because watching...

Sat, 18 May 2013 11:53:10 -0400

IDK how my boy got Tom Hardy lips. Probably because watching Lawless got me pregnant.

re: what is labor like: maybelater said: My sister says it is like a severe period cramp and...

Thu, 16 May 2013 22:14:16 -0400

re: what is labor like:

maybelater said: My sister says it is like a severe period cramp and having to poop simultaneously.

yes. if this is all taking place in hell while satan shoots a blowtorch up your cooter.

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Thu, 16 May 2013 22:11:53 -0400

apparently fast labor is had labor. It really sucked, but well worth the outcome. :) MAD props to...

Thu, 16 May 2013 18:24:16 -0400

apparently fast labor is had labor. It really sucked, but well worth the outcome. :)

MAD props to any woman who does natural childbirth more than once. Like, you already know what’s in store and you do it again? That’s amazing. I am done FOREVER with that. I thought either I was dying or I was going to kill someone. I definitely yelled at some doctors and nurses to GTFO.

Pics of beautiful boy tomorrow, I hope. :)

theparadoxymoron said: Some people go into pre-labor or something before the real deal. My aunt...

Thu, 16 May 2013 02:44:55 -0400

theparadoxymoron said: Some people go into pre-labor or something before the real deal. My aunt had contractions like a week before she actually had her first kid, but she drove across the country anyway, which was probably stupid. But once your water breaks, it’s legit. (I have never in my life…

Ugh I can’t imagine doing this for a week. It’s not even that bad yet and already I’m tired of it.

Waiting for the Dr. to call me back. I need Tumblr to amuse me.

WTF does labor even feel like, I have no idea if I’m in it or not.

Thu, 16 May 2013 02:37:07 -0400

WTF does labor even feel like, I have no idea if I’m in it or not.

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Thu, 16 May 2013 00:00:29 -0400

wtfniceguys: Look out, we’ve got a philosopher Nice Guy™ on...

Wed, 15 May 2013 23:48:57 -0400

wtfniceguys:

Look out, we’ve got a philosopher Nice Guy™ on OkC.
(thanks thecolournerd!)

Why isn't New Orleans Mother's Day parade shooting a 'national tragedy'?

Wed, 15 May 2013 22:44:33 -0400

Why isn't New Orleans Mother's Day parade shooting a 'national tragedy'?:

cs-k:

stfuconservatives:

“So I shouldn’t be surprised that the Mother’s Day Parade shooting has largely been forgotten. On Sunday, shots were fired into a crowd during a parade in the New Orleans 7th ward. Police said they saw three suspects running from the scene.

This is the largest mass shooting in the United States where the shooters were still at large after the crime was committed. Think about that for a minute. From Columbine to Virginia Tech to Fort Hill to Aurora, all the shooters were either killed or apprehended on site. But the person or people responsible for shooting 19 Americans are still free.”

One of the people who got shot was an antiviolence blogger. Somehow we aren’t seeing massive solidarity for New Orleans or the entire city going on police lockdown to find the perpetrators. Two reasons: 1) This mostly affected Black people, and we all know how much the media and the police give any fucks about Black people in New Orleans; 2) This was a gun crime, so we can’t criticize it because GUNS ARE FREEDOM!

Wait what…? I hadn’t even heard about this! The fuck.

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Wed, 15 May 2013 22:36:04 -0400

Beethoven: ARE YOU READY TO HEAR SOME SYMPHONIES?!

Wed, 15 May 2013 18:35:07 -0400

Beethoven: ARE YOU READY TO HEAR SOME SYMPHONIES?!
Audience: *cheers*
Beethoven: I CAN'T HEAR YOU!!

"Brave" fans win: Disney will keep the old Merida

Wed, 15 May 2013 18:32:37 -0400

"Brave" fans win: Disney will keep the old Merida:

After fans spoke out online, the heroine of Brave won’t be getting a sexy princess makeover after all.

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Wed, 15 May 2013 18:11:25 -0400

mulletwing said: “let” themselves die of cancer”. Wow, that might be some of the worst mansplaining...

Wed, 15 May 2013 17:24:23 -0400

mulletwing said: “let” themselves die of cancer”. Wow, that might be some of the worst mansplaining I’ve ever heard of.

teachjoanne said: I had a guy mansplain that a healthy lifestyle and proper screening would have saved her from cancer and that her choice to take a pre-emptive stance was a stupid one. Obviously he knows more about ovarian cancer than Jolie’s doctors do. Fucktrumpet.

amybuttface said: I LOVE MANSPLAINING it reminds me that I should probably convert to being full-lesbian instead of just bi.

thedeitybones said: UGHHH

But you guys, you guys, you don’t understand! HE beat cancer his own way. Therefore, anyone can do it the exact same way. Unfortunately, he can’t tell his secret to just anyone, or their heads will explode. But if people were only ready for HIM and HIS ANSWERS, then they wouldn’t have to die from cancer. Ever. He’s got the cure for everyone, but he just can’t share it.

It’s really sad, because Angelina Jolie is now just a puppet who “disfigured” herself.

Also, I’m just not listening to him because he doesn’t have a vagina.

The Sexual Objectification Checklist

Wed, 15 May 2013 17:13:32 -0400

The Sexual Objectification Checklist:

edwardshallow:

1. Does the image show only part(s) of a sexualized person’s body?

BMW

2. Does the image present a sexualized person as a stand-in for an object?

Four Loko

3. Does the image show sexualized persons as interchangeable?

Mercedes Benz

4. Does the image affirm the idea of violating the bodily integrity of a sexualized person who can’t consent?

Duncan Quinn

5. Does the image suggest that sexual availability is the defining characteristic of the person?

American Apparel

6. Does the image show a sexualized person as a commodity that can be bought and sold?

Red Tape Shoes

UGH, I’m being mansplained to about how Angelina Jolie did the wrong thing, because she acted...

Wed, 15 May 2013 17:12:35 -0400

UGH, I’m being mansplained to about how Angelina Jolie did the wrong thing, because she acted “out of fear” and she wasn’t REALLY going to get cancer, and if only people knew what this guy knew, they wouldn’t “let” themselves die of cancer.

gordonlevitting: This guy named Joseph [46/∞]

Wed, 15 May 2013 13:55:44 -0400

gordonlevitting:

This guy named Joseph [46/∞]

Lucy Liu Talks Candidly About Racism And Stereotypes In Hollywood

Wed, 15 May 2013 13:39:36 -0400

Lucy Liu Talks Candidly About Racism And Stereotypes In Hollywood:

asiansnotstudying:

One of my favorite US actresses, Lucy Liu, is in Net-A-Porter’s Graphic Issue, which has me all kinds of excited. Because the only thing better than watching Liu at work is seeing her in fantastic frocks and reading interviews with her; she often has sharp, insightful comments on Hollywood and acting, while remaining quite modest and mellow.

She seems like she would be a lot of fun to hang out with.

(Lucy, come over some time! We’ll have tea and cookies!)

So Lucy Liu. At 44, she’s got a fair amount of experience in Hollywood, starting in the time-honored traditions of small guest roles and working her way on to “Ally McBeal.” She’s flitted back and forth between film and television, but as she herself points out, a lot of the roles she’s taken on have been really, really stereotyped.

You see, Lucy Liu is perfectly happy naming, and talking about, the elephant in the room: racism is a problem in Hollywood. Liu’s been cast as a Dragon Lady (Ling Woo on “Ally McBeal” for example), martial arts star (“Charlie’s Angels” and “Kill Bill”), and, of course, mysterious sex worker with links to the Chinese mafia (“Payback”).

Lucy rockin’ it at the “Kung Fu Panda” premiere.

Photo credit: Eva Rinaldi.

What she’s not often cast as is a woman who happens to be Chinese-American, a role where her race could be acknowledged and wrapped into the plot, without turning her into a total stereotype.

I wish people wouldn’t just see me as the Asian girl who beats everyone up, or the Asian girl with no emotion. People see Julia Roberts or Sandra Bullock in a romantic comedy, but not me.

She rightly notes that race confounds any casting decisions, making it impossible for her to be seen neutrally as an actress who might fit well in a role. Instead, her race is front and center in any discussions about how to use her in film and television:

it [becomes], ‘Well, she’s too Asian’, or, ‘She’s too American’. I kind of got pushed out of both categories. It’s a very strange place to be. You’re not Asian enough and then you’re not American enough, so it gets really frustrating.

Liu’s experiences in Hollywood, of course, mirror that of larger society, where Chinese-American women can find themselves in a strange social bind as they straddle multiple communities.

The daughter of immigrants, Liu has close ties to the Chinese community, but she’s also not entirely of the Chinese community, as she tells readers in the Net-A-Porter interview. She defied her parents to pursue an acting career, for example. Yet, at the same time, she’s not viewed as wholly “American” because of her race.

I love that her two favorite roles have been in “Lucky Number Slevin” (well worth checking out if you haven’t already) and “Watching the Detectives,” because both roles mark a departure from what people might think of as Liu’s ouvre, a reminder that actresses are often sandwiched into specific types of roles against their will. It’s not that Liu wants to be an action star or a Dragon Lady, but that these are the roles offered to her, and the ones she’s forced to take.

The fact that she’s getting more established and fighting to be on projects that aren’t pushing her into the stereotype corner is awesome, and I love seeing her in those roles. Her latest project, “Elementary,” definitely doesn’t cover stereotyped ground. As Joan Watson, she’s breaking all kinds of boundaries for an old and much-beloved classic. A companion to Holmes who’s not just a woman, but a Chinese woman?

Lucy Liu at a USAID Anti-Trafficking conference.

Photo credit: Crespo Events.

Her casting in that role wasn’t without controversy, though. While the producers were very committed to exploring the Holmes/Watson dynamic as a friendship, with her race reflective of larger racial diversity in New York, fans were explosively angry about the decision to put Liu in the role. Considerable racial hatred was dredged up by people lobbying against her casting. Liu’s response when asked about it kind of encapsulated the many reasons why I love her:

If I didn’t try anything different, I’d still be doing a Calgon ad. You have to be a pioneer, which means doing things that are not scheduled and different. When you do stuff, it’s not always to please other people–it’s to please yourself. For me, the more individual you make something, the more universal it can be. You have to be a pioneer.

Lucy Liu is rocking on with her bad self in an environment heavily dominated by older white male decisionmakers, where white actresses have the pick of the roles and the paychecks, where it’s still acceptable to cast white people in roles of color, and where actors of color often find themselves pushed into boxes it’s very, very hard to escape. She’s fighting all the things actresses need to deal with in an industry where sexism is still a looming issue, plus the tangle of racism in Hollywood.

I love and admire her frankness on the issue, and her willingness to confront it through her career and the projects she works on. Thanks for being a pioneer, Lucy.

Doctor Who Quotes: Mickey Smith

Wed, 15 May 2013 13:12:04 -0400

Doctor Who Quotes: Mickey Smith

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Wed, 15 May 2013 12:27:07 -0400